Beautiful Words  素敵な言葉

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One Sunday in August, when we wandered into a church in Squamish, the minister asked the congregation this question. “What is faith?” It sounds religious, but it can be taken in a broader non-religious sense. Of course, it could be “I have faith in God,” but it could be “I have faith in my child,” or “I have faith in my strong good fortune,” etc. etc. You could have faith in all kinds of things.  But, he said, faith is not merely a belief. Believing and faith are totally different. He said, in order to say you have faith you need to have three factors, 1) capacity to trust, 2) willingness to commit, and 3) courage to act.  All three.  Even if you miss one out of three, it is no longer “faith”.  So, I suppose it means something like this….if you think in terms of husband and wife relationship.  If I have capacity to trust my husband Neil, commit myself to make him happy, and actually do things that make him happy, …..(like buying him an ice cream cake), then, I have “faith” in our relationship…? Even if I am totally committed, and completely trusting him, if I don’t do anything in action to show him, then, I don’t have “faith.”  Even if I buy tons of ice cream cakes, if I don’t trust him from the bottom of my heart, then I don’t have “faith”.  Or, even if I bought him ice cream cakes and trusted him solidly, If my commitment is wishy washy, then I don’t have “faith”. 🙂

Hmmm…… These three words, “trust, commitment, and action” were ringing in my ears for several days.  When you think about it, it certainly is true especially at a turning point of one’s life and at different stages of relationships. It’s actually a helpful guideline. For example, in my current stage, just retired and entering my new chapter, if I try to be conscious about trusting my new goal(s), make a commitment to follow through, and courageously act what I believe is right, I might actually be able to accomplish something meaningful…..

Many months ago, our leader in my Healing Pathway practitioners’ group gave me valuable advice.  When I was apprehensive about something, she suggested that I say to myself these words, “invite and trust.” It means, ‘Don’t worry, I should invite the unknown, and trust that I will be guided through.”  Isn’t it wonderful?

I am so happy that I have come across such beautiful words at this time of my life.  I am looking forward to seeing what unfolds in my new chapter.


先日ふらっと訪れたスクアミッシュの教会で、牧師さんが、Faith「信じている」ということはどういうことだろう、と問いかけた。神様を信じている、我が子を信じている、強い運勢を信じている、などなど色々な「信じている」状況があると思う。でも彼によると、単なるbelieve(信ずる)とfaith (信じている)とは全く異なるというのだ。「信用する心の器」(capacity to trust) そして「コミットする意思を持ち」(willingness to commit) さらに「勇気を持って行動に移す」(have courage to act) この3つが重なって初めて faith「信じている」という状況が生まれる。そのうち一つでも欠けると「信じている」ことにはならないという。つまり夫婦関係を例にとって考えると、夫のニールを信用する心を持って、夫のニールを幸せにするという決意(コミットメント)があって、それを行動で表す。。。(例えば彼の大好きなアイスクリームケーキを買ってあげる?)その3つができて初めてFaith ある夫婦関係と言えるということかな。決意があっても信用していても行動で表せなければダメだし、行動があっても芯から信用していなければダメ、またはコミットメントがフラフラと不安定だったら、これまた心底信じている夫婦関係とは言えない。


「先がわからなくて不安な時は ”invite and trust” という言葉を思い出してね」と随分前だけれどヒーリングタッチのリーダーであるシャロンが私に言ってくれたことがある。これも素晴らしい言葉だと思う。Don’t worry, invite the unknown, and trust that you will be guided through. 「心配しないで。未知なることを招き入れよう。そして必ず道が示されると信じよう」


Author: Haruyo Abramson

I'm a musician, mom, and grandma, living in BC, Canada with my husband and three dogs.

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